"I got my joy back, I got my peace back, I got my self-esteem back"
A mother's struggle with two bouts of homelessness

Full Interview with Debbie
Name : Debbie S.
How did you lose your house or your housing situation?
Domestic violence, and the landlord decided to sell the home.
What other circumstances were you dealing with in the year or so prior to entry?
Abuse. Physical and emotional abuse.
I do. I suffer from panic attacks, PTSD, and anxiety. Those are the main ones.
Have you ever suffered with substance abuse?
Yes
Do you want to elaborate on any of that?
My boyfriend and I were getting hooked on drugs. So, it’s a blessing that the relationship ended the way it did because it was getting out of hand.
How long were you dealing with substance abuse?
I would have to say since I was maybe 28 years old. So nearly 20 years on and off, I’ve been struggling with it.
Have you been the victim of domestic violence?
Yes
What is it like experiencing homelessness?
I was homeless before for 8 months. It’s difficult because you have got to find out where your next meal is going to come from; how you’re going to make the money standing on the street corner, holding a sign. That’s the way that I did it. I unfortunately lost my fiancé. I became pregnant and I was able to get out of this situation, but he wasn’t able to come with me. So, two weeks later he ended up passing away. So that was a really tough one for me to handle.
How long ago was that?
2017 is when that happened.
The first time you were homeless, what course of action did you guys take?
Did you know about the Coalition at the time?
No, I did not. No. I had actually called law enforcement on myself, because my oldest daughter was with us and [I wanted] to see if they could help us because I was running at a dead end. I had no other options and the officer said “I’ll be right back” and he came back an hour later and said “you're right, I can’t find any place for you guys to go.”
So, he didn’t give you anything?
No. And I became a very severe alcohol. Very Severe. My whole first trimester I was drinking and thank God she’s okay, you know? But I live with that guilt (*begins to cry*) my whole life. But I’m just so grateful that she’s alright.
But I never stopped looking. I never gave up. Until we ran across a lady who ended up finding a detox center here in Orlando for me. And that's where I ended up going for a couple of weeks. And then I went to Aspire. I was transported to a treatment center, which was Aspire. I was there for three months and then they invited me to come to the home program, which was in Kissimmee, which I lived for a couple of years. And they helped me get the house that I just lost.
And how long were you in that house before you lost it?
3 years
This time, once you lost this house, what steps did you take?
I called law enforcement, of course, because of the domestic violence. I called the cops, and I said “please can you take us to the Help Now Center, because this is what is going on now.” And they took us to the center, where we stayed for a good three months. And they paid for a hotel for us for a couple of weeks and then we came here (Coalition).
The same day that we checked out of the hotel room was the same day my daughter had to get surgery to get a feeding tube put in. So, I knew that we were going to stay overnight for a couple of days, so I was going to use that time to look at the resources and everything. And the hospital ended up finding this place. And she says “Here are bus passes. Get over there. See if you can get in.” The first day they told me no, they didn’t have the space. The second day I came they gave me the spot.
What was the biggest challenge you faced and how do you feel you overcame it?
The biggest challenge definitely was substance abuse. I overcame it by leaving the situation that I was in because he was an enabler, and it was hard for me to stop, when he kept on doing it. And getting rid of him was the main problem.
Was being evicted from your home your card to leave the relationship?
I knew I didn’t want to be with him anymore and I was looking for a way out. And then it came, and I didn’t look back.
What was the most important thing that you think you lost when you lost your home?
My self-esteem. My confidence. My happiness. All of those things were gone.
What would you say is the hardest thing about being homeless?
Not having a support system. That’s so important. So important. If you don’t have that, you really don’t have anything. Honestly. We didn’t have a support system.
How does your experience change your perception of people who experience homelessness?
Oh wow. Because there’s people out there who don’t want to help because they think that you’re using their money for the wrong reasons. Which is true...some of us are...some of us did...but I just wish there were a lot more people who would help.
Because some people were really cruel. They would throw change at you, pennies, and I mean just awful things.
If you could describe your experience in one word, what would that be?
Traumatic.
If you were given a permanent place to live tomorrow, how do you feel that would change your life right now?
Tremendously. We’re actually going to be moving to Georgia this Saturday. Cortney was going to help me get back into rapid rehousing and the domestic violence compensation thing. She helped me with a lot of things. She extended herself to try and help to get things going and it was just last week when I decided that, you know, this is probably best for us. Because Florida has a lot of bad memories, and I can't get away from him. He always finds me. If I'm out of state, he can't find me.
How have your case managers helped you?
Cortney was able to get some clothes for my daughter which were much needed. She also gave me a voucher to go over to a church down the street here to get some outfits.
If you could describe the Coalition in one sentence or word, what would it be?
Comfortable. Very comfortable. I adjusted very well here. The other clients are really nice and helpful. I mean, especially helpful with my daughter, because she's got a feeding tube in. You know, they help out with her behavioral issues, and you know...they really try to give you a break and it’s really nice to have.
How did the Coalition help you?
I got my joy back, I got my peace back, I got my self-esteem back. Everything that was lost, came back to life. I’m serious, I’m walking around; I dressed myself up now. Where before, I just was in bed all the time and doing drugs and not taking care of myself. I would go weeks without a shower. That’s how bad I was about myself, I quit caring. My kids were not being raised properly. I’m surprised they didn’t get taken. Now it’s like a totally different life. Totally different and I couldn’t ask for anything more. You know, being here is a blessing. Being here is a blessing for me, because I know what it’s like to have nothing.
Anything else you want to share?
Oh, if it wasn’t for this place, I definitely would still be on the streets and I am very grateful. And as far as donations...once I get myself on my feet, I am giving back and I’m definitely going to start donating back to this place for all the help that they’ve given me. And for anyone who's listening to this, please donate.
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